Do I Need Therapy or Am I Just Struggling?
“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”
Life isn’t always smooth. We all experience challenges—stress at work, difficulties in relationships, loss, or simply feeling stuck. But in those moments, a question often arises: Do I actually need therapy, or am I just going through a rough patch?
This is a very common concern, and the fact that you are asking yourself this question is already meaningful. It shows self-awareness and a willingness to reflect, which are important steps in maintaining your mental and emotional wellbeing.
Struggling vs. Needing Therapy
Struggling is part of being human. Everyone has days—or even weeks—where things feel overwhelming. This doesn’t automatically mean something is “wrong” with you. Stress, sadness, or anxiety can be normal reactions to life’s circumstances.
However, therapy becomes valuable when:
Your struggles persist – If difficult feelings don’t ease over time, or keep resurfacing, therapy can help you explore the underlying causes.
Daily life is affected – When sleep, appetite, concentration, or motivation are disrupted, it may be a sign that support is needed.
Coping strategies aren’t working – If usual ways of managing (exercise, talking to friends, hobbies) no longer feel effective, professional guidance can provide new tools.
Relationships are strained – Conflict, withdrawal, or a sense of disconnection can be explored safely in therapy.
You feel stuck – Sometimes it isn’t about crisis but about personal growth. Therapy can help clarify identity, values, and direction.
Common Misconceptions About Therapy
One reason people hesitate is the belief that therapy is only for those in crisis. In reality, therapy is for anyone who wants to understand themselves better, manage emotions more effectively, and live with greater balance.
Another misconception is that going to therapy is a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it often takes courage to sit with a professional and explore difficult emotions. Seeking help is a sign of strength and commitment to self-care.
The Value of Talking
Human beings are relational. We make sense of our experiences through connection and communication. While friends and family provide support, therapy offers something different: a confidential, non-judgmental space where you can fully express yourself.
Counsellors and psychotherapists are trained to notice patterns, challenge unhelpful beliefs, and provide insights that can lead to change. Sometimes, simply being heard without expectation can be transformative.
Therapy as Prevention
Therapy is not just for “fixing problems.” It can be preventative—helping you build resilience before issues escalate. Much like physical health check-ups, mental health support can catch things early, reducing the risk of burnout, depression, or long-term anxiety.
Voltaire once wrote, “The most important decision you make is to be in a good mood.” While mood can’t always be chosen, therapy can equip you with strategies to manage it, supporting healthier choices and outlooks in everyday life.
Questions to Ask Yourself
If you’re wondering whether therapy is right for you, reflect on the following:
Do I feel overwhelmed more often than not?
Am I avoiding things I used to enjoy?
Do my relationships feel harder to maintain?
Have I noticed changes in sleep, appetite, or energy levels?
Am I repeating patterns I’d like to change?
Do I want a safe space to explore who I am and what I want?
Answering yes to any of these may be a gentle nudge that therapy could be supportive.
A Professional Perspective
As a counsellor, I often remind people that therapy is not about labelling or diagnosing—it’s about understanding. It provides space to process emotions, build coping strategies, and work towards a healthier relationship with yourself and others.
Sometimes, people come to therapy expecting quick fixes, but it is usually a gradual process. The pace is unique to each person. What matters most is your willingness to show up and explore.
Final Thoughts
Struggling is part of being human, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Therapy is not about being “broken” or “weak”; it’s about giving yourself the opportunity to grow, heal, and find clarity.
If you’re unsure, consider trying a session. At worst, you’ll spend an hour reflecting on yourself with a trained professional. At best, you might begin a journey that brings lasting positive change.
Remember Nietzsche’s words: He who has a why to live can bear almost any how. Therapy can help you uncover your why, and with that, the how becomes more manageable.
Monica C | Integrative Counsellor, MBACP
Therapy with Monica I hello@therapywithmonica.com
This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health care. If you need urgent support, please contact your GP or Samaritans at 116 123.