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Healing and self-understanding don’t only happen in the therapy room. This space is here for you to return to whenever you need—offering support, perspective, and ideas that may resonate with your own experiences and journey.
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Relationship Therapy
Relationships shape us. They can be the place we feel most seen and supported — and they can also be where we feel most anxious, rejected, misunderstood,
or alone.
If you’re searching for support and you keep seeing both couples therapy and relationship therapy, it can feel unclear which one fits. The terms are sometimes used interchangeably, but they can also describe different types of work.
What is couples therapy?
Individual therapy: What it is and what to expect.
Couples therapy (sometimes called relationship counselling) offers a structured, confidential space for two partners to explore what’s happening in their relationship with the support of a trained therapist.
Couples Therapy vs Relationship Therapy
Individual therapy (sometimes called counselling) is a one-to-one space where you can talk about what’s going on in your life with a trained professional.
RECCOMENDED READING
Bessel van der Kolk The definitive book on how trauma lives in the body, not just the mind. Groundbreaking, compassionate, and genuinely life-changing for many readers.
Dr Sue Johnson Based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this explains why we fight, withdraw, and cling in relationships — and how to build genuine emotional connection.
David D. Burns The classic CBT self-help book, backed by decades of research. Practical tools for challenging negative thinking patterns that drive depression and anxiety.
Tara Brach Blends Buddhist mindfulness with Western psychology to address the deep sense of unworthiness many people carry. Quietly profound.
Lori Gottlieb A therapist goes to therapy herself. Funny, honest, and deeply humanising — demystifies the therapy process and what it means to change.
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Understanding Your Mind & Emotions
The Body Keeps the Score— Bessel van der Kolk The definitive book on how trauma lives in the body, not just the mind. Groundbreaking, compassionate, and genuinely life-changing for many readers.
Feeling Good — David D. Burns The classic CBT self-help book, backed by decades of research. Practical tools for challenging negative thinking patterns that drive depression and anxiety.
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? — Dr Julie Smith Written by a clinical psychologist, this covers the essential skills for managing emotions, low mood, grief, and self-doubt — clear, warm, and highly practical.
Anxiety & Stress
First, We Make the Beast Beautiful — Sarah Wilson A beautifully written personal account of living with anxiety that weaves in science, philosophy, and practical wisdom without being prescriptive.
The Anxiety and Worry Workbook — Clark & Beck More of a structured workbook than a read-through, but rooted in CBT and genuinely useful for anyone who wants active tools, not just insight.
Self-Compassion & Inner Critic
Self-Compassion — Kristin Neff The research-backed case for treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a friend. Transforms how people relate to failure, shame, and imperfection.
Radical Acceptance — Tara Brach Blends Buddhist mindfulness with Western psychology to address the deep sense of unworthiness many people carry. Quietly profound.
Relationships & Attachment
Hold Me Tight — Dr Sue Johnson Based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this explains why we fight, withdraw, and cling in relationships — and how to build genuine emotional connection.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents — Lindsay C. Gibson Eye-opening for anyone who grew up feeling unseen or dismissed. Helps readers understand how their upbringing shaped their emotional world as adults.
Identity, Meaning & Growth
Man's Search for Meaning — Viktor Frankl Written by a psychiatrist who survived the Holocaust, this short book explores how finding meaning sustains us through suffering. A cornerstone of existential therapy.
The Gifts of Imperfection — Brené Brown Research-based and readable — on letting go of who you think you should be and embracing who you are. Her work on shame and vulnerability is genuinely transformative.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone — Lori Gottlieb A therapist goes to therapy herself. Funny, honest, and deeply humanising — demystifies the therapy process and what it means to change.
Mindfulness & Being Present
Wherever You Go, There You Are — Jon Kabat-Zinn The foundational mindfulness text from the founder of MBSR (Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction). Accessible and timeless.
The Miracle of Mindfulness — Thich Nhat Hanh Short, gentle, and profound. A Vietnamese Buddhist monk's practical guide to bringing awareness to everyday life.
For Those Supporting Others
Lost Connections — Johann Hari Explores the social and environmental roots of depression and anxiety — essential reading for anyone who wants to understand why so many people are struggling today.
I'm Okay, You're Okay — Thomas A. Harris A classic of transactional analysis — approachable and still relevant for understanding how we relate to ourselves and others.
A few worth mentioning that sit outside the mainstream but are worth knowing:
The Noonday Demon (Andrew Solomon) — an exhaustive, deeply human exploration of depression
Permission to Feel (Marc Brackett) — on emotional intelligence and why naming feelings matters
Untamed (Glennon Doyle) — polarising but powerful on self-trust and authenticity
Set Boundaries, Find Peace (Nedra Tawwab) — practical and direct on a skill most people were never taught
MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES
Therapy with Monica is not a crisis service, if you need support, you could consider any of the below
If you are in immediate danger, please call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.
Suicide Samaritans —
samaritans.org | 116 123 (free, 24/7) Available around the clock to provide a non-judgemental listening service for anyone in distress or crisis.
Suicide (under 35s) Papyrus HOPELINEUK —
papyrus-uk.org | 0800 068 4141 (24/7) Confidential support specifically for people under 35 who are struggling with suicidal feelings, and for anyone concerned about a young person.
Depression & General Mental Health Mind —
mind.org.uk | 0300 123 3393 The UK's leading mental health charity, offering information, advice and support for anyone experiencing a mental health difficulty, as well as their family and friends.
Addiction (Alcohol & Drugs) We Are With You —
wearewithyou.org.uk A free, confidential service offering practical support and therapy for anyone affected by drug or alcohol problems — no referral needed, and help is available online, by phone, or in person.
Crisis Text Support Shout —
giveusashout.org | Text SHOUT to 85258 A free, confidential 24/7 text service for anyone in crisis — particularly useful for those who find it difficult to talk on the phone.
LGBTQ+ Mental Health Switchboard —
switchboard.lgbt | 0300 330 0630 A support service where all operators identify as LGBT+, offering information, a listening ear, and signposting for the LGBTQ+ community.
Porn & Sex Addiction The Laurel Centre —
thelaurelcentre.co.uk Specialises in individual and couples therapy for sex and porn addiction, offering a BioPsychoSocial approach to recovery — also provides dedicated support for partners.
Sex Problems (Psychosexual) College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) —
cosrt.org.uk The UK's professional body for psychosexual and relationship therapy — their therapist directory helps people find a qualified, accredited specialist for any sexual difficulty or concern.
Bereavement Cruse Bereavement Support —
cruse.org.uk | 0808 808 1677 The UK's leading bereavement charity, offering free helpline support, online chat, and one-to-one counselling for anyone dealing with grief and loss.
Worry About Someone Else Carers UK —
carersuk.org | 0808 808 7777 Provides advice, information and emotional support for anyone caring for or worried about a loved one's mental or physical health.
Find Local Support (All Issues) Hub of Hope —
hubofhope.co.uk The UK's largest mental health support directory — search by location and topic to find local and national services covering any mental health concern.
The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity ATSAC —
atsac.org.uk The professional association that helps people find qualified therapists specifically in this area, which is often hard for clients to navigate.